My Take on “Doing It All”



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Many moms who run a business at home, and even moms who aren’t running a business, but who are doing the hard work of raising their kids everyday, all day, would say they feel pressure to “do it all.” And there is definitely the pressure out there. Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook. These all tell us that we need to be the perfect moms, wives, housekeepers, and business women all the time, right?

I would argue, however, that as of late, there’s been a lot of pushback to this idea. I read A LOT of blogs by wonderful women doing the mama thing and a lot of them run businesses at the same time. For some of them, their blog IS their business. These women are protesting against the idea that moms need to do it all. That some days, we just aren’t going to cross everything off our to do list. That some days, the dishes won’t get done. That some days, we won’t be kind and gentle with our children.

You know what? I love hearing other moms say it’s okay to struggle with time management. It’s okay to feel like you’re barely keeping your head above water. It’s okay to leave those dishes in the sink or not fold the laundry for a little bit. Because then I know I’m not the only one.

I’ve got so much on my plate right now. I’m working on documenting my violin curriculum in the name of being more organized. I’m attempting to write more regularly in this space. I lead a group of beautiful Christian mamas where we are able to pray for and encourage each other. I do some work for my church. All of this (and more) while trying to keep a somewhat tidy house and attempting to be a good wife to my husband and mama to my son. Not to mention finding the time to pull out my violin for at least a few minutes most days. It’s a lot to handle. And I’m getting better at it. I’m trying to set up some systems and routines in order to keep things working in the shortest amount of time possible. Right now, I actually feel like I’m making some progress. But even when I don’t feel that way, I know that there’s so many other mamas out there who feel overwhelmed, too. I keep a cache of posts to read just to remind me that I’m not the only one.